We are their referents, in that age when everything is wanted to know but you lack the basic knowledge to understand it is when uncomfortable questions arise, difficult to explain even to an adult, dad, where has grandpa gone? Why dad no longer live with us. He doesn't love us, why can't I have a baby?
Sometimes we don't know the answers, other times we think they are too young or we won't know how to make them understand. It is one of those parts that entails being a father or mother, one of those packages in our backpack. This time we want to know What has been the most difficult question your children have asked you so far?
Last week we asked you: Do you think the figure of the doula is necessary before, during and after childbirth?
These have been your answers:
marichollos:
I'm going to put myself in the cornfield alone ... but from my experience, I had my husband and one of his daughters at all times accompanying me to medical appointments, ultrasound, analysis, preparatory classes, in childbirth, in later appointments of the baby ... and I think my doulas are them, and I haven't needed anyone else. The truth is that strange people bother me in those moments. At birth, we were alone, my husband's daughter and a midwife, and I wouldn't have liked to have more people. I can come to understand that other women who don't have so much accompaniment need them, but answering for me, I don't need them.
And lita_nyan also told us:
I continue with my argument. Every woman will know what she wants or needs in her birth. And if you need the accompaniment of a doula, then perfect. I was accompanied by my husband and my mother, who is also a health worker, so she could even be during the caesarean section. And I appreciate it. But if I had wanted the company of a doula, who are the midwife or the gynecologist to deny me? They are there so that MY BIRTH goes well, they have no more voice than that of the toilet and a toilet, in most cases, does not give emotional support. A husband, if it is his first birth, is still more nervous or out of place than the parturient. In short, I roll up, the woman decides who she needs right now.
