Have you ever complained in front of the mirror about your appearance or something in you that you don't like? Probably most women have done it at some time in our lives. Have you thought about why we do it? Sometimes we tend to be very critical of ourselves, instead of focusing on highlighting all the positive things we have.
That's why a video I saw recently resonated in me, in which A group of girls shows their mothers how and why they love something that for other people might not be so easy: their hair, giving a beautiful lesson on self-esteem and self-esteem.
The video
The team in the "Style" section of the Today site decided to do an experiment about how women feel about their bodies. One of the songs they played was Hair, which for many women, is one of the things they wish were different: Women with straight hair want it with more volume, while those with very sharp curls would like to have more manageable hair.
But, What if we recognize how positive our body's characteristics and our physical appearance have? It is precisely what happens in the video that I show below, where mothers and daughters appear with curly hair.
Some mention that at the beginning they wanted their hair to be different, to feel that they were like the others, but little by little they were learning that those characteristics of their hair, it was what made them unique, different and above all, themselves.
Perhaps not all women identify with the type of hair of women and girls that appear there, but we can probably all think of some part of our body that we don't love at all, and that we could start to see how those girls do.
My experience with a hair other than mine
There is a point in the video, which was the one that particularly it made me think of the responsibility I have as a mother of a girl. One of the women said that she used to dislike her hair because her mother didn't know what to do with him, so she constantly cut and combed her hair so it would be different.
This is something similar to what happens to my daughter. All my life, on good or bad days, my hair was between straight and wavy, so I did not fight to comb or accommodate it, although sometimes it was boring. Then my daughter was born, dominating the genes of the paternal side, thus having an abundant hair of curly hair.
My first reaction as a first-time mother and in love, was worship that curly mane, which was very peculiar to me after being used to dealing with straight hair all my life. But as it grew, I was encountering some problems: it got too tangled up!
Every day was (and sometimes still is) a constant struggle, because those beautiful and delicate curls were entangled with each other, doing something laborious combing my daughter. With the passage of time and the weight and length of her hair, the curls disappeared a little and now her hair is more wavy than curly, although we still have problems in the tangle department.
Our responsibility as mothers of women
With all this, what I want to reach is the following; Many times I complained loudly about my daughter's hair. He said things like "How difficult it is to comb this hair!"or"I hope it will stop being so curly over time", Without realizing the message I was giving to my daughter.
My job as a mother, but especially as a girl’s mother, is to make sure she grows safe and confident in her body. Do not grow with silly prejudices because your hair is one way or another. Let him see the positive in each trait of his physique, instead of focusing on the negative.
And I do not speak only of the hair, but of the physicist in general. My mentality about this changed when I read a mother's message, and that we shared some time ago in Babies and more: the importance of speaking positively about our bodies in front of our daughters. We may forget but it is very true: our daughters are listening to us all the time.
Expressions like "I hate my belly" Y "I wish I wasn't so fat"I have been eliminating them from my vocabulary, because she is always listening. So if I have learned to accept my body, besides doing it for myself, it has also been for my daughter.
Not only do I make sure that I avoid creating prejudices and ridiculous criticisms about the physical aspect, but that I work by your side to always see the positive side, and love what makes us unique and different.
