Social networks have led to that criticism that was given on a small scale be amplified to unsuspected dimensions. There are many mothers who share their daily lives on social networks (who does not do today?) And are exposed to all kinds of negative comments judging your way of raising. Any image or shared comment is likely to be attacked by those who think differently.
The absurd mothers' war is there, but there are also many who they want to turn the war into peace and foster a truce between mothers. With that intention he was born #MomsagainstMomShaming (mothers against shaming other mothers) by the hand of the Maya Vorderstrasse blogger who drives the premise that we should support ourselves instead of criticizing ourselves.
Bullying between mothers
A fellow mother said to me The fact that you have time to stage pictures, tells me that you have no idea what a tired mother really is. I have 8 kids, you have 2, get over it. Why is her tiredness real and mine isnt You are a good mother if you have a messy house or if you have a neat house. You are a good mother if you open up about your problems or if you suffer in silence. You are a good mother if you stay at home and go borderline crazy, or if you go to work with a heavy heart and miss your baby all day. Youre a good mother if you make your childs food or if you buy a jar of baby food. If you bottle feed. If you breastfeed. Single mother, married mother, divorced mother, rich mother, poor mother, minivan mother, young mother, older mother, tattooed mother, type A mother, type B mother, 1 child, 12 children, you are THE BEST MOTHER Do not allow anyone to tell you otherwise DEAR GOD, this shouldnt be a thing, there are no comparisons We love our children, and were all doing our best. Don't contribute to a judgmental & hateful culture that destroys womens self esteem and confidence. You dont know their story. I dont need praise, its just that so many of my friends go through this as well and its getting old. Lets stand tall, join in together and tell our story and how this has affected us. I created the hashtag #MOMSAGAINSTMOMSHAMING please use it
Under the hashtag #MomsagainstMomShaming, Maya calls on other women to unite against what has become a new form of bullying, bullying towards mothers. In the text of his publication he explains why he has decided to start with this movement:
"A follower mother told me:
"The fact that you have time to take pictures, tells me that you have no idea what a tired mother really is. I have 8 children, you have 2, get over it."
Why is your tiredness real and mine is not?
You are a good mother if you have a messy house or if you have an orderly house.
You are a good mother if you share your problems or if you suffer in silence.
You are a good mother if you stay at home and live to the limit of madness, or if you go to work with a heavy heart and miss your baby all day.
You are a good mother if you make your child's food or if you buy a jar of baby food. If you feed it with a bottle. If you breastfeed. Single mother, married mother, divorced mother, rich mother, poor mother, minivan mother, young mother, older mother, tattooed mother, type A mother, type B mother, 1 child, 12 children, you are THE BEST MOTHER! Do not let anyone tell you otherwise!DEAR GOD, this should not be a thing, there are no comparisons! We love our children, and we are all doing our best.
Do not contribute to a critical and hateful culture that destroys women's self-esteem and confidence. You do not know his story. I don't need praise, it's just that many of my friends go through this too and it's getting habitual. Let's get up, join and tell our story and how this has affected us. I created the hashtag #MOMSAGAINSTMOMSHAMING, please use it! "
Avoid destructive comments
"That if you breastfeed or bottle, you can not be as tired as you say, it is not right to do that or that, ..." are common comments in the maternity forums. But every mother-child is a world and there is no manternity equal to another.
If we want to raise our children as respectful and tolerant beings we must start by setting an example and accept other people's way of raising. We don't know what's behind each story and it's not right to judge other parents because they do it differently from us.
The networks keep us in anonymity and makes many times say things that would never be said personally. But it also offends and hurts, so think twice before making a destructive comment. Of course, we support the movement initiated by Maya and hope it will contribute to bringing peace to this senseless war.
