Yesterday we started a topic about people's sexuality in which we are trying to explain how are the phases of the evolution of said sexuality in children until reaching adulthood, according to Osho.
In the previous post we discussed the first of three phases, the autosexual phase in which the enjoyment of oneself with his body prevails, and today we will discuss the second and third phase, which children should reach naturally as they grow , evolve and begin to have social relationships with other children.
The second phase is the homosexual phase that, to be called that, is not exempt from a certain controversy, because it comes to say that all of us who passed from the first phase in our sexual maturation were homosexual at some time.
The homosexual phase
In the first phase, the autosexual, the child knows his body and enjoys it. You can say that he likes his body, how he is and what feelings he produces.
If he is a boy, he likes his body as a boy and if he is a girl he likes his body, which is that of a girl. Going from autosexuality to heterosexuality, moving from loving your own body to loving an "unknown" body would be a big leap in evolution and therefore, before loving a foreign alien body the child will love a known alien body.
So it happens that boys will start to get together with boys and girls with girls. Children will know how to understand and know how to relate to boys, and girls to girls, but a boy will hardly relate to a girl in the same way, because they are a separate world, they are different: "his body is different from mine and I love my body".
It is an equally natural phase that boys will leave behind as they get in touch with other girls and get to know them and interact with them.
Perpetuating homosexuality
However, there are many parents and many social circles that put barriers between boys and girls. Years ago, many years ago, most schools were separated by sex. The boys went to boys 'schools and girls to girls' schools. This is now custom only in some private schools, luckily (at least I think so).
However, these barriers continue to exist in other environments or circles such as sports, where teams are boys or girls, but never mixed (unless they are young children). In addition the barriers are not only physical, since at the level of communication, there are parents who make a lot of differences between what is a male and a female behavior ("this is a girl thing, do not do it ...", "my daughter plays to football, it's a bit butch",… ).
If boys and girls are separated the homosexual phase is perpetuated, it lengthens, it extends because boys and girls barely have contact to move on to the heterosexual phase naturally.
Luckily for all homosexuality is increasingly accepted (especially in our generation and those that come), but a while ago this was not so and curiously the separation between the sexes was more widespread. I say curiously because the same society that repudiated homosexuality was promoting its appearance with the separation of children and young people by sexes.
Heterosexual phase
Finally, when the child (or girl) has been passing from the autosexual to the homosexual phase and if he has been able to be in contact with children of the opposite sex in a natural way, living together without anyone seeing sexuality in their games and talks and censuring him, the heterosexual phase.
Arriving at that stage the person is able to fall in love with another of the opposite sex in a healthy and mature way, even when the opposite person belongs to a different world, with a different psychology and spirituality.
Conclusions and opinions
I suppose you will agree with me that, whether or not you agree with Osho's words, they leave no one indifferent. Reading the three phases of sexuality that explains Osho I can say that I quite agree with the logical sequence that he proposes, starting with an autosexual phase that corresponds to the moment in which a child must know himself in all possible aspects , whether psychological, bodily, emotional or social, because he must know who he is, what his role in life is, what he represents in society and what are the characteristics that make him be the same as others and at the same time, going through a homosexual phase in which children become inseparable companions of games, moments and confidences, which according to Osho does not last too long, finally reaching the heterosexual phase in which children, broad connoisseurs of their body and their possibilities want to explore and know the opposite body, in addition to the person who has been rejected for so long.
However, despite communing with what he says, it seems to me too sharp the step "or the non-step" from one phase to the other. According to the author, there are many children who remain in the autosexual phase without passing to the homosexual and, consequently, to the heterosexual phase. Similarly there are many who remain in the homosexual without going to the heterosexual.
And I do not think that children are stuck in one phase or another, but that they happen because you want it not, the child grows and with him his intelligence and his ability to relate to others and, for much social and social limitations parents who lived, passes phase yes or yes.
Now, one thing is to pass phase and another very different is how this happens. It is not the same to pass the course having approved everything or having taken all notable ones than to pass the course with a suspended subject. Well, in the same way there must be children who are going through phase in sexuality with deficiencies in some of the phases or parts not exceeded, which will surely drag forever.
