The ways of breeding evolve over time. Unlike ancient times, Currently we see more parents involved in the care and parenting of children. Surely there were also parents present, but without a doubt the number has been increasing, although we still see it as if the fathers "help" the mothers, when in fact it is the responsibility of both.
A father from the United States, tired of parents being seen as if they were just babysitters, decided to send a message to make things clear.
Jeremy Martin-Weber is a father of six children with his wife Jessica, whose ages range from 5 to 18 years. Together with Jessica, she has a blog where they share their parenting experiences called Beyond Moi.
Jessica recently went on a work trip so Jeremy was in charge of the children during the time she was away. So taking advantage of the occasion, he decided to post an image on his Facebook page to make something clear: he is not a babysitter.
In the image we can see Jessica leaving at the airport to board the plane, which Jeremy accompanied with the following text:
Jessica, the mother of our six children, is boarding a plane as I write this, she will leave the city, out of state, for work issues over the next few days.
Now we have to decipher who:
- will cook and feed my children
- will take them to school on time
- it will help the children to choose the clothes that they will wear
- will respect your routines and help maintain the limits
- will hug you when you need a hug, kiss your wounds and take care of your scrapes
- it will comfort you when you have nightmares and need to go back to sleep
- It will help them solve problems with their siblings
- you will hear every little detail you want to share of your day
- read them a story, encourage them to play outside or play a game with them
- will support and motivate my teenage daughters with their feminine "problems" and their relationship problems
- He will show you kindness, love, patience, empathy, strength, courage and all good things
Who will do all those things while your mother is not?
I. That is who. Because I am not the babysitter. I am not just a playmate. I am his dad. And see for them and guide and care for them is my responsibility. And I love doing it - with all its challenges.
No, the house will not fall apart or be destroyed, nor will the children be ruined because Dad is in charge. And no, I don't deserve anyone's special compliments or their worship because "Wow! This dad can take care of his own children." I only do what each father should do, and what mothers do every day without praise or worship. It is enough that the mother of our children and I communicate the appreciation to each other for all the things we do for our family.
Jeremy's words express the annoyance of many men when they are parents and are only considered as a babysitter. Today's parents are more interested in parenting and childcare, however we still see it as if parents do mothers a favor when they take care of their children.
But it's not like that. Parents do not help, they fulfill their responsibility. I liked a phrase that mentions in your text: "I only do what each father should do, and what mothers do every day without praise or worship".
Personally, I think that there is nothing wrong with thanking you with a kind word or a gesture of affection to a father for being present. However I agree that we should not see them as if it were something from the other world or worthy of admiration. After all, children are the responsibility of both of them and parenting is a team work.
