These days I have talked a lot about the importance of having time for ourselves after becoming mothers. An important part of taking care of our children is also taking care of ourselves, since if we are well, they will be too.
Today I want to share a little of my personal experience and tell you how Since I started taking my "time for mom" seriously, I have felt good and helped me to be a better mother.
Who I am?
This is a question that I really got to ask myself after my daughter was born. And with his arrival I won thousands of things, but I also felt that I lost something very important: my identity. I do not complain, being a mother is truly the best thing I have ever lived and that I will surely live. I am completely sure that no other experience can fill me with so much love and joy.
But being so focused on being a mom, attending to my daughter with everything she needed, I forgot about me, until there came a point where I no longer did absolutely anything I loved so much. My books were filled with dust, I knew absolutely nothing about movies or series that were fashionable, much less knew the new places in the city. I was very busy being a mom, happy of life and enjoying my daughter.
Until one day I felt lost. Completely. I felt that he no longer knew me, that he had only become "Lucia's mother", a title that I love and of which I am more than proud. But I also wanted to be me again, not the one before, since that is no longer possible, but to return to being the person, the individual with my own identity that I was before my daughter was born.
Of course today I am not the same. It's me but different and improved - well, I hope so. Although I am a mother, I am also still a woman. And that was how that day I decided that I would do something for me. I have always accommodated my itinerary and activities around my daughter, that probably won't change in a long time. But within that planning, it would now include time for me..
Today I'm still very busy being a mom, but on top of that, I've been me again and have my own identity.
Benefits that I have gained since I made time for myself
I will be honest, finding a time to relax or do something I like is not easy. Many times it involves revealing and stealing myself a little precious hours of sleep, but believe me, it's worth it. These are the five things that I have gained by having my time for mom.
I feed my self-esteem
I consider this the most important point. By spending time for me, even 15 minutes a day, but well used, I feel better about myself. I choose to do some activity that fills me inside and that makes me feel good, because I know that motherhood can become overwhelming with so many changes and pressures, so loving me is extremely important.
I de-stress
Disconnecting for a while from the hustle of being a mom makes me relax a lot. When I can, I take a nap. Not only rest, but I pause my mind, which is reciting the list of earrings all day in an endless loop.
I am more patient
Related to the stress of the last point, the release of a few moments of these pressures and pending It helps me to have a lighter mind and body, making it more patient when there is a difficult situation, such as a tantrum.
I have a more positive attitude
I like to take advantage of my time alone to watch a movie if there is an opportunity or look for a video that makes me laugh and makes me forget the stress of everyday life. Investing that time in something that makes me laugh makes my attitude rise and stay positive. Life becomes easier and the problems are lighter.
I value my time with my daughter much more
This is the greatest reward of spending time alone. Not that I need to be away from my daughter to value time with her, every second by his side is an unrepeatable and it is wonderful to grow by his side. But missing her while I'm not with her helps me to value those moments at her side even more.
I really believe that all moms should spend time for us, without feeling guilty or selfish, because in the end we are moms, we are human.
Do you spend time for yourself during the day? How does this help you to be a better mom?
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