Suppose that parents for fear of "spoiling" their baby ignore the cries and requests of their child. What happens to that baby? The baby will cry harder to get the attention of his parents, more than attention he will ask with a worrying cry that his needs be met, he will implore until he fails to do so. This baby will grow up thinking that the world is an insecure place and that other people are not sensitive.
Finally, as a result of neglect, you will learn not to give signals, it will create a feeling that something is missing in your life. This fault becomes outward hostility. It will be characterized as a difficult child. He will learn that security depends on himself, and as he grows he will have self-confidence difficulties. When parents do not respond intuitively to their baby at the same time they lose parenting skills and face more problems when disciplining.
Emotionally disconnected babies They lack emotional expressions. They do not seek eye contact and do not express expressions of affection with others. When they are on top of their parents, they give the impression that these are just a seat. They are babies that look "lost." As the child grows, he manifests behavioral problems, grows by wasting his energy on inappropriate behavior, is a recipient of reprimands and seems to live in his own world. It happens to be labeled as "bad" or "spoiled child", these difficulties are nothing more than the ways you have to find that "emotional connection" lost with your parents without knowing it because you ignore what was lost.
At the same time, the parents of disconnected children do not find satisfaction in their role as parents, they look for activities that do not involve their children because of the emotional wear and tear that this implies, parents and children are separated even more. Unlike "connected" children who provide joy and a pleasant social environment. The emotionally rich become richer and the emotionally poor become increasingly poor.
If this disconnection has already happened, it is never too late to begin to connect emotionally with children, professional advice and deep reflection about parenting style helps to rescue that lost relationship. Of course, a lot of energy will be required to achieve it.
The best that parents can do is connect with their children from the moment of their birth, being sensitive and not afraid to "spoil them" if we respond sensitively to their needs, to physical contact, giving them all our love. It is a task that demands a lot of dedication, and that many times we must make a “pause” in our lives. But let's think that it is a time while they are young that they will not return and when we see them grow up happy and "connected" we will realize how valuable it is to raise with the heart.
