Motherhood has given me many things. Experiences, moment and totally new experiences, some full of joys and others that are a little more on the negative side. But in general, and so far, it has been an experience with which I have learned many things that I never imagined.
But something that being a mother has also given me is that ability to analyze myself and see how I have changed and improved since I was a mother. That's why, and reflecting a little on this idea, I want to share why I am not, nor do I want to be, the same as before having children.
The woman from before
You probably identify with some of the things I will mention about the woman I used to be when I was not yet a mother. And is that before having children, most of us had a very different rhythm and lifestyle the one we have now that we are moms.
The woman who used to be before was more carefree, less stressed and perhaps more irresponsible. Not because he did things regardless of the consequences, but because before I did not stop to think so carefully everything I do, because there was still no one who depended on me as there is now.
Also, before I gave a lot of importance to things that now seem ridiculous or of which I don't I can not even remember what was his place in my life. All this is part of the natural process of growth and maturation that we live when we become parents.
It is true that there are some things that become more complicated when you have children, such as traveling or those express trips for a coffee with a friend, but also, having them by your side, everything, absolutely everything becomes better. And that is one of the many reasons why I am happier now that I am a mom and I would never be what I was before.
The woman that I am now
It is true that there are small moments when you miss the freedom you had before having children, but when I think and reflect on everything I have grown, I am convinced that I am not, nor do I want to be the same as before having my daughter.
There are many things that I notice differently in myself since I am a mother, starting with my daily routine. Now I have more established schedules and I find it easier to get up early. Before or dreaming of waking up before 10 in the morning on a weekend, but now my body is ready to wake me up at the necessary time.
Too, I have the ability to better plan things and organize my day since I wake up, including my daughter's activities and all the earrings of the day. The mental burden that we mothers carry can be exhausting, but it has made me realize the abilities that I have and before I did not know.
Now, for example, I don't have time or patience for nonsense like gossip or superficial things. I have learned to give value and importance to other things that seemed ordinary and simple beforeLike a long shower, a nap, a cup of hot coffee, a walk in the park or enjoy an afternoon of movies.
Since I'm a mom, my joys are more intense, not only because they are shared, but because Thanks to my daughter's vision, I realize how truly exciting and beautiful life is. Thanks to her, now I find and see the magic everywhere, leaving very much in the past that apathetic side that sometimes invaded me when I was not a mother.
Something that I've noticed that has changed too, and that I love, is that Now I am less hard on myself and with my physical appearance. I used to complain about my imperfections, but now I am aware that there is a little girl watching and listening, and I don't want her to grow up with the same complexes and insecurities with which I grew up.
One point that could be considered not very positive is that now I constantly worry about almost everything, but that has made me more cautious and It makes me make decisions in a more conscious and responsible way.
On the other hand, I have become more selfish. I know it sounds contradictory, because being mothers we naturally dedicate ourselves to children and put them within our top priorities. But Now, I take care of myself more, both physically and mentally and emotionally, because I know I won't be young all my life and I need to be well first, in order to attend to my daughter as she should.
And finally, I would never be the same as I was before I became a mother, because now I know a love like no other. My heart feels overwhelmed, overflowing with love every time I receive a hug from my daughter. And that does not compare with anything.
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