For many mothers who work outside the home, the care of their children must be provided by a third person and that is when, in most of these cases, a decision must be made: babysitter or childcare? Sometimes for the economic issue and for the security of knowing that a children's stay has its papers in order and has qualified personnel, we opt for that second option.
It is not easy to leave our children in the hands of others, but After thinking deeply we give you a vote of confidence for your care. With time things go perfectly and we can feel calm leaving them, knowing that they are in good hands.
This had become a mother's routine, until one day he came by surprise to the nursery where he left his daughter, a baby he had adopted, and discovered that the person in charge of the place had been secretly breastfeeding her for months.
Mother's story
Through an incredible anonymous story on the Slate website, a single mother, who had adopted a baby months ago, tells what happened one day, when he left work early and decided to stop before his usual time for his daughter to the nursery where they took care of her.
The story is part of a series of anonymous stories Daniel Mallory Ortberg receives for his section on that website, called "Dear Prudence"(Dear Prudence) and where your readers ask for advice or solution to the problem or situation they share there.
The mother begins her story by telling that She decided to feed her daughter with formula because she had been adopted and she worked outside the home, so she could not breastfeed her. Like many mothers, she found a nursery with which she felt satisfied: it was a nursery at home (with permission and papers in order) that had five years functioning as such and in addition, the manager had two small children, one of similar age to the of his daughter, so he gave her peace of mind.
However, the first day they had an awkward moment, in which the woman who was in charge of the nursery made a bad face when the mother took out the formula and bottles that she would leave to feed her daughter. "Are you going to give him that crap?"was the question asked by the person in charge, but the mother decided to ignore it because she thought it was a simple comment and that it would not happen from there.
In Babies and more The three reasons why mothers who bottle feed deserve the same respect as those who breastfeedTwo months passed, and the mother He left work early on a Friday, so he decided to go before the usual time to daycare, and take his daughter with her home. For parents who have children there, the nursery has a side door that only they know and through which they can enter without touching, so he did that day.
When she entered, one of the nursery attendants saw her and began to talk with her, but the mother says she already wanted to go home, so she did not continue her conversation and went to the area where she usually went for her daughter. That was when he discovered that they were breastfeeding his daughter without his consent.
"I almost fell, the nursery manager was LOVING MY BABY!"says the mother, saying that then he quickly approached her, took her baby from her arms and asked the manager if she had gone mad. "She said she was saving my baby from the chemicals that I was trying to force into her body, and that I should thank her for doing it all these months!"
Mother He decided not to answer, and proceeded to take his baby's diaper and things and leave quickly, but now he told what happened because he didn't know what to do. On the one hand, he thinks that the right thing is to report it immediately to the company with which he works under this modality of daycare at home, but he also considers that he must publish his history and data of the nursery in social networks. Her sister, on the other hand, advises her to write to the other parents so they can make surprise visits to make sure she doesn't do the same with her children, but the mother thinks it's too much.
Of course, the response of Daniel, the person in charge of this column, came as a surprise and told him that he should report it immediately, because although his baby was safe and apparently nothing had happened to him, what the person in charge did was a great abuse of trust, violation of her rights and something that should definitely be reported or reported.
In Babies and more Mothers who choose not to breastfeed should be respected Although we all know that breastfeeding is the best for the baby, the mother's decision must be respected and valued, not only because her baby was adopted and she had not been able to breastfeed her, but simply because it was his decision.
In addition, other factors come into play: what if the baby had an allergy? Or if the manager had any disease? Although the risk of transmission is small and there are very few diseases that can be transmitted through breastfeeding, it’s not right that I did that and less hidden from the mother.
Finally, the goal of a daycare center is to be a place of trust and tranquility where parents feel comfortable leaving their children, and it must be the obligation of the providers of that service to respect decisions about food and care for them.
