I know, it never motivated us enough to celebrate Valentine's Day when we didn't have children, we always said we didn't need one day to show the other that we love him, that he is the person we want to be with for the rest of our days. Does love have a date on the calendar?
We both know it, which I say both, knows it until the neighbor of the sixth we love each other. But this whirlwind of paternity has been so great that it has dragged each of us to a part of the shore and every day it roars in such a way that it becomes difficult to enjoy together again, you and me. So I wonder What if we celebrate Valentine's Day?
There are thousands of reasons not to celebrate it, well, it may not be so many and they are only small beings that have been running around us for a few years, above sofas, mattresses and 300 different types of Lego pieces. I do not blame them, for the record, I did the same at their age and that has helped me to realize how different the movie of your life looks according to the part of the stage where you are.
But I was talking about whirlpools and raging seas that take us from one place to another in the same way that our children drag their favorite doll. We know that feeling perfectly, we just have to stop any day and observe ourselves from outside to see us there, dragged by that daily routine of schedules, shots, porridge, dinners, bathrooms, iron, washing machines, etc.
And we? The two of you, you and I, not so long ago lovers, those who decided to embark on this adventure without being very clear where the ship we had jumped to went. Where is ours? Get now to look for it among so many toys and paintings. But surely somewhere is, you just have to pick up a little and get it out of the air.
Alone? Yes, alone. We talk about having a space for us, for our own, what unites us. To laugh, to return to the confidences, to those moments that only we know, those that every day is determined to cover with lots of receipts, cries, impossible schedules, etc.
The 14? It does not have to be Valentine's Day, we can move it to another date, but a date must be put and put it now. We know each other, we know that the "in another better time" It never comes. But, why not? We can leave the children with their grandparents, uncles, cousins, neighbors, a babysitter, is the doorman worth it? Let's find a restaurant, anyone (more or less, that we are no longer for romantic dinners in the fast food chain that of the clown). Let's spend some time for ourselves, let's enjoy each other's company again.
The children alone? Well yes, for sure it will be a fun adventure for them. Total change of registration, another house, other rules (or none). There are mobile phones, your mother knows how to use them and we are not going to change countries, in case of an emergency of the type "the little one looks like the exorcist girl" or "come for them before they kill each other" we can reach before SAMUR.
That there is no babysitter available? Well, we can celebrate our moment after curfew, no one said to leave home. Yes, we know that this is what we usually do, but this time we can give some small touches to the decoration, some candles (yes, first we will check that the floor is free of construction pieces, cars and various dolls), a different menu , A whim? Why not?
And what do we do with the one who wants a tit every two hours? You like complicating my day, right? Well, it is the same, only here the best thing will be to square your moment with the space between shots, at least to have had a time together before the time for the rise of milk arrives (which we already know is not what we could call romantic moment par excellence).
We don't need to have a romantic night Insurance? I do not think so. Every couple needs to take care of themselves, or rather, pamper each other. That thread that binds you needs some maintenance from time to time.
Isn't it a bit selfish? How much time do you devote to your children and how much to your relationship? It is not selfish to take care of your relationship as a couple.
Now how the night ends is only your thing, if they make it clear. Of course, I am not responsible for the consequences.
Happy Valentines.
