A month or so ago, this video was known to me to ask me about my opinion, especially as regards sex. This is a 12-minute excerpt from the documentary "D'amore if he lives" (Love is lived), by Silvano Agosti, who leaves no one indifferent.
In it, we see a 9 year old boy talking about many things, and among them, about sex. And it is surprising because the documentary premiered in 1984, now 32 years ago. When I saw it, I was so surprised, so much, that I could only title this post like this: the 9-year-old boy who talked about sex like the children of the future will do.
Franck and his way of seeing life
When I finished watching the video I just wanted to know more. Where it had come from, who this child was and, above all, what had become of him. If this video was recorded when I was 9 years old, now it must be at least 41 years old (counting that it was probably recorded before 1984), so we are many who ask ourselves what will have happened to him and his dreams (and many who have not found anything).
And it is that without a doubt it is a tremendously intelligent child that with only 9 years has a maturity that many young people would want for themselves. Come on, when I saw it a lot of schemes broke in relation to childhood and, in fact, in relation to life. As if he had just heard a little philosopher giving his arguments to be happy, without stopping to think about what others could think about them. And he does not expect the acceptance of the adult who interviews him, he does not try to please him. He doesn't even care what judgment he can make, because he is very clear about how he wants to live.
But, talk about sex!
Sure. A 9 year old boy who has a maturity worthy of a young man of, I don't know, more than 18 years? It is quite logical to talk about it then, but with the limitation of lack of experience. And it is logical to talk about it if they are his first experiences, those of youth, when he is experiencing, when love is quite relative because you not only try to know the person next to you, but also yourself.
I do not say with this that 9-year-old children have to touch each other to get to know each other, but according to what situations or cultures, it can be normal. In our western culture it is unthinkable, of course, but in other cultures children are very young, 12 or 13 years old.
Yes, we talk about an Italian child, but something is clear: the education he has received at home is far from being the traditional European education that we all know. Because with nine years it seems clear that much of his speech comes from home, from what he has learned there, from seeing his parents talk, interact, live, live ... and how they relate to him.
I imagine their parents as a very liberal couple, very aware of the reality in which they live and very critical of her, and I imagine them very communicative with each other and with Franck, a very restless and curious child who has probably been able to "suck "their knowledge and values of them and of many other adults.
And what do you want me to say, I don't care. There are those who talk about pedophilia, of the advantage, of "cool boy" who has cheated on a girl (if you look for the video on YouTube there are several versions, with dozens of comments). But I wouldn't worry too much. He does not talk about having forced his friend "to touch and kiss", explains that they talked about it and decided to try. The two wanted to do it. She is not a minor with an age of majority; he is 9 years old. And this one, in particular, is a very mature child and, in my opinion, intelligent and honest enough to stop touching her if she says "No".
"What a smack it will be when he grows up and see what life is like"
In a passage in the video he explains that he doesn't like school, and that he dreams of having a house in the country with a pool, and a girlfriend to make love with. But he doesn't dream it for now. He dreams it for when he is older. He imagines life like this, and many people, in comments about the video, he predicts a harsh reality that will take away "so much nonsense" to the child.
However, in the end it is not important what he says (that too), but your determination. He may not have achieved that dream, but he probably has achieved others that are equally or more important. Because to get something, the first thing is to be clear that you want to get it, and it seems that this child has quite clear priorities.
Come on, if my 9-year-old son told me that this is his dream, he would encourage her to get it: Who the hell wouldn't want to live like this? If you get it, perfect. If not, surely he will be able to dream other dreams, it is worth the redundancy, perhaps even better, perhaps not so idyllic, but with the conviction that he will fight for them regardless of those voices that are always willing to tell others that " you won't be able ", just because of the envy of seeing others try what they dare not even consider.
Anyway, I do not speak more for you to give your opinion about the video. It helped me to open my mind and to confirm something I already knew: children have a lot, a lot to teach adults. Not because they have learned something that we do not know, but because they have not yet lost much of what we lack, because we have already forgotten it.
