After two entries explaining some of the criticisms or phrases with little information that the nurses told 155 mothers who answered a survey on prolonged breastfeeding (it seems incredible that I dedicate three entries to it, or rather, I wish it were a lie), today we continue with the topic to show the latest and meet what nurses can say about prolonged breastfeeding.
Outside tit, 250 bottles in the morning, 250 at night and 200 vegetables
This is what a nurse told the mother of an eight-month-old baby. Out tit, give bottle (exactly 250 in the morning and 250 at night) and 200 vegetables. Ale, like someone who prescribes some pills ... that's called making children enjoy eating. What if he wants more? And if he wants less? And if you want to eat other things? And what is most degrading, was it a tit? A nurse (or a pediatrician, a doctor or whoever) is not who to say was a tit to anybody unless there are compelling reasons for it and, if so, it is not said “was a tit”, it is explained that it should be proceed to weaning and explain why, as tactfully as possible.
Breastfeeding is not giving a cookie and "come child, eat it." The chest has many other things implicit in addition to the nutritional part, such as carries an incredible immune load (In fact, this aspect is more important than the nutritive one) or that implies a great bidirectional emotional load, both from the mother to the son and from the son to the mother. In other words, weaning a child is something that will most likely affect the baby and most likely affect the mother, especially if she has no desire to do so.
Further, Offering formula milk (derived from cow's milk) before 12 months (like any other dairy) is taking an unnecessary risk of developing allergy. If necessary, it is done, but having breast milk, it makes no sense and is disrespectful. Do you know any nurse who says "baby bottle, now you breastfeed, which is better"?
Give cow's milk or derivatives, with yours no longer enough
A nurse told a mother that her 12-month-old son had to start drinking milk and derivatives because there was not enough with his milk. He might be right, but he also might not have it and, as I imagine he did not measure anything about the amount of breast milk that child drank, I risk saying he probably spoke without knowing.
It would have been different if I had said: Now that you are 12 months old, you can start drinking cow's milk and derivatives, if you want to give it. I would not have entered if it reaches or does not reach (a one-year-old child can continue to breastfeed without needing cow's milk, of course) and leaving the possibility of “if you want to give it” would still get more results than with an imperative “give it” , since the door opens to the fact that if one day the child is curious about a yogurt, for example, the mother gives him no objection, while in the other way he can even refuse because “son, you don't need it, I have enough ”, this being true, I repeat.
He's too old to drink a tit
This was told by a nurse to the mother of a 12-month-old boy. "He's too old to drink a tit." As you know, because I have repeated it almost to satiety, WHO and the AEP recommend offering breastfeeding until at least 2 years of age. This means that a child can breastfeed with two years, with three, with four and with the age that their mother and son like.
If a nurse said that with three years she is already too old to drink a tit, she could still be based on the known literature, and there she would save the subject a bit, however it is still a value judgment and an opinion that probably nobody He has asked and, therefore, should keep it to himself. The mother may well answer him "and you are too old to go saying what you think to those who have not asked for it" (I doubt he did).
Do not bother, you can not breastfeed because you have inverted nipples
At four hours after birth, a mother tried to breastfeed her baby when a nurse said "don't bother, you can't breastfeed because you have inverted nipples."
No, if it is not annoyance, it is simply that I have been informing myself for some time and all I have read is that, even with inverted nipples, it is very, very likely that you can breastfeed. Maybe I need more help to do it and maybe without that help I won't get it, so telling me that I won't be able to do it I don't think it's what I need most right now and less four hours after meeting my baby, I'm like a flan at all the senses.
They gave him a bottle before arriving in the room, asking for help because he didn't take it, they gave him another
This is what a mother told about what happened after giving birth. Faced with such a performance there is no choice but to applaud all the initiatives of the type "do not separate" and similar.
Already a mother can spend the pregnancy reading, informing, going (or not) to breastfeeding groups to answer questions, attending (or not) the classes prepared with the midwife to answer more questions, than if in the hospital, after giving birth , they separate the mother from her baby and someone with very little information comes up to give her a bottle, they have destroyed you, most likely, breastfeeding. And if they have not destroyed it, they have placed a great barrier to its success.
Children are born with their mouth almost sucking, searching, waiting for a chest to reach their mouth (or for their mouth to reach a chest), to start sucking as they know as soon as they are born. If someone offers a bottle at that time, the baby will learn to suck the bottle (Ah, well, I thought this was different. Well, nothing happens, with a little practice, closing my mouth a little more and putting my butt tongue so as not to choke on milk. From now on I will do so).
At the moment when the mother tries to breastfeed, the baby will try to pump milk in the same way as with the nipple, closing the mouth a lot and putting the tongue to stop and stop the trickle milk. Come on, what you will do is spit the tit continuously.
Bravo for them. If, in addition, after the scuffle, the mother asks for help and instead of offering it they turn to another bottle, the scumbag is already complete. I repeat, bravo.
Do you still have milk?
A nurse asked a mother if, after two months of breastfeeding, she still had milk. I can understand that this question is asked when the baby is 12 months old, or when he is two years old, because I am even used to the health personnel having little information about it but, doubting after two months, I seem to have very, very few information.
Imagine the face of the mother who, knowing that she can breastfeed her child until she is 15 years old (or older) if he wants (and she does too), receives such a question.
“Like you never give him help? This child is very bad, I hope we took it on time ”
This is what a nurse told the mother of a 4-month-old baby, that since she had taken nothing but breast until that moment she was in serious danger.
Most likely, this professional, who was just trying to do her job best, still did not know what are the growth outbreaks, also known as breastfeeding crisis.
Three months ago (and on other occasions) many women have the feeling of running out of milk. This is not true, but the child begins to ask for more because it makes a growth outbreak and needs more. Also at that time mothers often stop feeling the rises in milk (the breasts no longer get hard), which is not that there is no milk, but that the demand is more regulated and overload no longer occurs. As this does not happen, the breasts often stop dripping. In short, the chest does not drip, the rise is no longer noticeable and the child asks for more. This is finally understood as a "I am running out of milk."
This is precisely what our mothers explain, that after three months they ran out of milk and had to start giving us bottles. Luckily now we know that this is not the case, however it seems that there are still nurses with the information from decades ago that they still think that after three months babies have to start drinking artificial milk because breast milk runs out.
“What's still with the chest? What do you intend to demonstrate? Do you not care about your son? ”
This is the same nurse, one month later, when the baby was five months old. Not only was it not reported how it was possible for a four-month-old baby to remain alive without drinking artificial milk, but he did not seem to understand the issue by seeing that he was still alive with five months.
Once again, imagine the face of the mother who goes with her baby, knowing that breast milk can be given exclusively up to six months (some babies even more), when she receives these messages. The confidence in what this professional can say in this and other issues remains on the floor, even if he is right about other things. Regrettable.
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