Achieving your goal will not be easy, but we will be by your side

From the day they are born we want to be by their side, help them in their day to day, prevent them from stumbling, it is our instinct, the unbeatable force that pushes us to do anything for our children, and of course the protection instinct is the Strongest of all.

Many times we find parents, or perhaps we are the ones who say it, who want their children to be babies forever, to have them among cottons for the rest of our lives, to prevent anything from adding them, but they have to grow, and although we don't want to recognize it we know it must be like that achieve your goals and that will not be easy, but we will always be by your side to achieve it.

How to instill perseverance since childhood?

I do not fear the man who has given 10,000 kicks, I fear the man who has kicked 10,000 times. Bruce Lee

We are all very clear that the vision of the future of most of our children does not reach beyond dinner. We know how complicated it is make them see that things don't always come out at the first and much less as we would like them to go out, the more times we try, the more we persevere, the more time we will devote to something better we will be given and as we improve our expertise, the more fun we do.

If it is already difficult to get them to pay attention to something for more than 20 minutes and much more, if possible, is to keep a habit. But it is just in these first years when we must sow that seed, without even knowing if they will germinate or not within a few years. But if we do not get them to acquire healthy habits from an early age, we cannot demand that they have them as adults.

To facilitate this acquisition we must find what they like and attract them and avoid tempting them to be what we could never be. Trying to instill our desires or our tastes to our children can mean that we get the opposite effect to what we want to create. And it is difficult to see it, because many times they will follow us not because they like it, but because they are with us that way.

Regular to reading, to practice sports, to devote time for everything, to enjoy what you have right now, to avoid boredom. All this will build a good foundation on which they can rely on in the future.

Not only does it affect them. Also to us.

Keeping a child busy is not an easy task, especially in the first years in which we will be his best playmates (and toys)

But if, for example, we talk about sport requires a sacrifice on our part. Not only economically but in time, which may be our most scarce asset these days. Ours and that of the family, that of the whole tribe.

We can help them get up, but we must not remove all the stones from the road

The hardest when it comes to achieving a goal is to stay in the race, Do not faint, keep trying despite the difficulties and this, especially in children so young is not easy to see or get. Many of us do not even know how to face the cry of our son when he tells us that he is no longer a friend of a little guy or menganita or when they surprise us with unexpected reactions to an innocent comment from us.

We are your most loyal followers

Is very important to be there, with them, even if we don't share your dreams, even if we know that your fears will pass, that the pain will subside and that it is very likely that everything that is past is worthwhile. And we will probably be those who download their frustration, fears and uncertainties. It is we, the adults, who have to try not to undermine their self-esteem and make them see the good part of everything, although sometimes it is difficult to see it even for us.

And we must help them on their way, we must be that hand that reaches out when you fall and that encourages you to continue. I know that we cannot avoid warning about the potholes and the dangers of the road, although we know that it will not pay attention to us. It is very difficult to avoid that instinct that parents have to keep everything that could harm them from their path, but I don't think we can help them that way. We should not prevent them from making mistakes but how we can learn from them and from experience.

When our child enters a card after 50 attempts in its corresponding place, it has not failed 50 times, it has simply found 50 ways of not putting the card in the correct place. Each failure forces him to change tactics, each blow sharpens reflexes.

But we must also be there when they surrender, even though we would have liked them to be sports stars or great pianists, we must be there to comfort them, they have tried and they have reached as far as they could, maybe it is a good time to try another thing, who knows.

The following video is an announcement from one of the sponsors of the winter Olympics but it shows very well what it means to be a father, to care for them, to fight for their dreams, to be by their side when things do not go as we think, to encourage them and support them. And above all, be very proud of them.

I don't know, I'm starting on this. But They say it's worth it in the end.