More and more parents are deciding to break the usual stereotypes of this society and get carried away by their paternal instincts, which although some and some do not believe it, we also have. We have been a long time behind the usual caregivers and responsible for this upbringing.
But we still have many doubts and many clichés to get rid of. Society, or most of it, continues to consider the role of caregiver of children as primarily female and continues to see strangely that parents take care of certain situations willingly and willingly. And of course, people have to say everything. These are the eight phrases we don't like to be told to parents.
Let me you are not good at this.
I'm sorry if I'm not born knowing, but I assure you that with a little practice I will do just as well as your mother. If you think I am not doing well, tell me how to do it and we will benefit both.
What, did you have to be babysitting today?
Yes, today and the rest of the days of my life. I don't know if you've noticed, but it's my son, my responsibility and who I want to "care for." Today it is I who is with him, and tomorrow, and next month and in 15 years ...
Don't worry little one, mom will arrive soon
I think this is the one that bothers me the most, or at least it's in the Top 3 nonsense that people who don't know you usually say. Would they say the same if instead of me, there was their mother? In case you know us and know our schedules? What if your mother is traveling? What if I am divorced or gay?
Why do you say something to my son that you don't know if it can be. My children usually call their mother when I punish them or I don't give them what they want, but they do the same when their mother doesn't leave them either. And if their grandparents were there, they would ask for political asylum.
And the winner is ... Is that a child with whom he is better is with his mother
Unless it is a newborn, a few month old infant or similar, for whatever you want, Never say that phrase.
We really believe that a child is better with his mother than with his father. A child is better with those who love him above all, with whom he takes care of him day by day, who cares for his needs. That is something that normally places a greater weight on the mother and therefore the child in a need will try to find his usual caregiver who is the one who usually solves his problems.
My children, when they are at their grandparents' house they prefer to be with their grandparents, they ask for things from them and not from us. When your grandparents are in our house they don't do the same, they ask us.
What would happen if your mother was in a postpartum depression or had decided to continue her business career and I who reduced my day. You don't know what the relationship is like, better then say nothing.
It shows that his father has dressed him
He may have dressed me, or his mother, or he has chosen what clothes to wear or perhaps it is the only thing more or less clean that he has left.
We are going to start that in my case the theme of fashion, if the stripes and the pictures cannot be mixed or if I can not put a shirt with some shorts or that or another color, it is something that worries me very little, not to mention anything. Seen my children so that they do not go cold in winter or heat in summer, I try to move with some freedom and therefore I do not put on a body, shirt, shirt, fine sweater, fat sweater, scarf and feathers to go out on the street few degrees there are and however well combined they go. That is not a joint child, that is the miniature michelin doll and has less movement capacity than a dummy.
But if so important is how the child is dressed we propose fashion classes in preparation for childbirth, so we would give work to a few.
I'm buying too, don't talk to her alone. Hello!
Hello? Do you see me? I am here and I have also come to buy things for my son.
How would you feel if you were to buy a car for you, you know what model you want and even, as the car is yours and not your partner, you pay for it. But as a couple, you go to the dealership together. You arrive and the commercial tells your partner the aspects of power, speed, displacement, position of the driver and you, colors, space for children, easy parking, etc. How would they feel? Well, this is how we feel when it happens to us.
Be careful, what you do is dangerous
I assure you that the last life of this world that I would put in danger would be that of my son. Not having him in cotton does not mean I don't care about him.
What a freak you are done
I know that this phrase is usually said to flatter and is sincere, but goddamn? For taking care of my children as any mother does, for wanting to be with them and for not knowing how most do not make me a godfather. That is what mothers have been doing all their lives and nobody has said they are madrassas. Thank you, but I am nothing out of the ordinary.
And you parents, What phrases do you not like to be told?
